The Wuuuushhhhhaaaa effect

It's great to talk to people when you have a question in your mind, especially a mind-boggling one. And it's better if you can talk to someone who practices martial arts, because they know all about self control and being powerful , but gentle at the same time.

I ask a lot of silly questions and some sound like this:

• Why do people kill?
• How do you control yourself from killing someone with your power?
• If you have someone trying to beat you up , what do you do?
• How to have self-control?

A friend answers me this in a short conversation:

• Kill= cannot control their own power.
• Self- Control = You have the power but you don't use it, unless absolutely necessary.
• In martial arts , you don't have to kill . You can do many other things, such as overpowering him , tying his hands tightly , without using force.
• Self control is easier to have once you start practicing. Practice more.

I guess , for myself, in layman's terms , this can only mean :

• Self control is something I REALLY want.
• Even though I have power to do something, I should not abuse it.
• Watch over my actions , so that it doesn't kill, but only gets the point across.
• A true master(mistress sounds bad) knows how to control herself.

I should learn martial arts soon. It teaches philosophy for free! Better than any Masters degree.